How to become an executive hoarder
Comic but educational look at the disease of Hoarding...serious illness trying to help others understand how they got to where they are and others how their loved one got to where they are...its a hard job but someone has to do it...please comment I will take into consideration any and all suggestions to make it better thank you for feedback it will make the difference...an update will be posted every Sunday at 8AM enjoy
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Introduction to this blog
In this blog you will find the many motivations behind the hoarding lifestyle so maybe those who are not hoarders can understand the mind o...
Saturday, January 26, 2019
Why it is so hard to get rid of stuff for Hoarders?
Thursday, December 27, 2018
Getting rid of stuff is equivalent to miscarriage hear me out
Alright, so when we get rid of things, we are not just getting rid of things, but also a dream we had. The intent to do something was established when we bought it. Similarly when one discovers they are expecting a child, these Hope's dreams and intents start to surface and then the unexpected happens the child is deathly sick because of deformity or they are stillborn or miscarried, it's not just a child we never met it's not just a fetus nor is it just tissue as some call it. It had purpose it had a dream it had Hope's and most importantly it had someone who loved it so deeply. So when approaching us with getting rid of our stuff...in all actuality you are asking us to get rid of our dreams.
Wednesday, June 14, 2017
June 14, 2017 update
How is your dwindling down the hoard going with you all? We are still making bit by bit progress and adding to it and removing some here and there...silly really. But its how we roll right? Them impulse buys always get me and my husband splurging.
What have you been doing lately? I am sorry I been very busy with watching a tree trimmer cut down a huge tree outside our home and then stressed as he was I thought I would be nice and give them the rest the money owed to get their rent paid and bills paid and then yeah they never have returned yet. Kinda disheartening got tons of brush to bundle now instead of them hauling it off for us like we were told and the stacked up wood never got stacked either and the small pieces sliced off for tables for me to make were not cut like promised...I am and have been very depressed...because of it and because its so overwhelming of a mess out there but been piddling with it...here and there.
Anyways hope your life is going well for you all!
God Bless!
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Wednesday, October 26, 2016
Update (Long past due for one) 10-26-16
With that said here is my Update:
As usual its a slow process of purging items. Feels as though we take one step forward and two steps back when we go to drop off donations and then hey why not go in and see if they have such and such and then end up leaving with more stuff than we dropped off ugh...toxic process let me tell you. I should just have a friend or family member go and drop off my donations for me and be done with it.
So Halloween is approaching and we have dug out all our decorations and incomplete costumes because this year its whatever we got is all you got to wear this year no buying new ones...so kids got creative and put a few different costumes together...it works. But purging those that don't fit or that my daughter probably won't use in her future is what needs to happen this year. So before we box up everything to store again for next year. Plan is to go through and get rid of all that don't fit or won't fit next year as well as get rid of things a little girl wouldn't be interested in wearing EVER lol...and hope to down the amount of boxes that end up being stored for next year. Wish us luck!
I got rid of a few stuffed animals...I know one of the hardest tasks to tackle is getting rid of the so cute and many memory animals...then they sit in a bag by the door and slowly the kids get them out one by one and then your 3 bags go down to one and you don't understand what happened...and you can't remember what you decided to get rid of...you know the hold on to it and if you love it and blah blah blah thing yeah I did that with each...it helps but not at the same time...because I love so many lol...anyways...
The paper nightmare is still being added to and slowly diminished only to add more to the piles of overwhelming nightmare...you don't know what to keep anymore...you mind goes numb reading all the garbage but you don't want to throw out important papers...then you have sentimental papers kids school work and drawings...sure you could maybe get a photo album that holds standard printer paper so the artwork etc can be inserted into it for easy reminiscing for you, guests, and your child. Good thoughts but saving them in a box to file into said book later is just going to grow bigger and bigger into an overwhelming heap of an overwhelming task...if you can't sit down to do this activity as you sift through your piles of papers then likely you ain't going to get around to doing it. You have to sit down and designate places for each category and have the book ready for insert of the treasures as you go. You can organize them later if you must but usually order just gets boring...jumping from decade to decade makes things exciting. and comparison to a 3 yr old vs the 11 yr old in front of you is totally adorable ;) so yeah don't obsess just do it.
Books ugh so many books you could fill a library room full of books like the one on beauty and the beast video with the ladder and all lol...what to get rid of? how to get rid of them? um there are apps out there that you can scan the bar codes and see if they are worth anything if you wanna obsess and spend hours on end sifting through and then decide if you really want to sell it or you rather keep hold of it. I tell you one thing books are losing value IMHO and the longer you hold on to them you would think they would be of more value but so far I haven't found this to be true unless they are of popular author but even still depending on the edition depends on the value. Sifting through the books is like oooh my son would love to read this or daughter someday...so you hold on to it...but they end up just sitting on the shelf collecting dust because they rather go to the library to rent books to loose for months so you have to pay fines lol...so little library outside your home? or find one in your neighborhood or a school and drop off some of those treasures for someone who would be more appreciative of the dust collector :) Just an idea.
Clothes still need gone through and diminished mainly because the chore of cleaning all the clothes has become daunting and overwhelming. So how many of each type clothes does one person actually need? short sleeved shirts, long sleeved shirts, sweaters, dresses, nice business suits, shoes, socks, undies, bras, PJs? what else am I missing? I personally wanna at have maybe a month worth of clothes so 30 of each would be a good start for our hoard and then work our way down to maybe 2 weeks worth...I mean we actually re-wear a lot of our wardrobe without thought anyway...why is it so hard to get rid of excess clothes anyway? we rarely wear most of them anyway! Why is it so hard?! That one item that doesn't fit but you wish you could fit back into so you keep hold of it as a goal wardrobe that probably won't happen and if it happens the thrill of finding it fits is sure fun buuuut while you are not using it someone else could be using it and enjoying it and hey maybe when you finally can fit that size your taste changed or there is no occasion that suits the outfit...best to purge and then when you lose weight or gain weight whichever you can purge the clothes you no longer fit and get new ones to replace but not over replace the wardrobe you lost. and just keep recycling it out and in as your fluctuate in your battle for your perfect body size that you never quite ever will be happy with because society has an image placed in many of our minds that is beautiful and we never can fit in that small window of perfection...I say stop striving for that perfection that doesn't exist...we are who we are...and that is perfect for us....even if it means we change wardrobes every year because of changes in our bodies. We got this!
I did get rid of the baby toys my daughter still plays with some but most I got rid of...I am proud of myself for that one...Still have way too many toys to sift through and get rid of but its a start and I will take the baby step and gesture :).
My husband has been purging and adding as I have too...out with the old in with the new...ugh...when will we ever learn that someday may never come and even if its a great deal we have no place to store it until it is needed?! ugh! the madness has to stop someday! I have an idea why don't people stop having crazy % off sales and leave us crazy people alone? bwhahahaha
Anyways, if you like my blog please let me know and I will be sure to try harder to post more often and even be motivated to do more with my hoard and try and encourage you and your hoard to diminish as well. If you find what I said helpful vote it helpful! below this post. etc. there is also a poll on the right to tell me who is seeking out my blog so I can write to those in particular audiences so I can help those who are interested in this subject.
Also comment your questions below I will be more than happy to do a Q and A blog post for those interested in having their questions answered. Thank you for your time and sorry again for the lack of promised posts, I hope you understand the feedback is what keeps me fueled and there is none so I am not fueled to post...so do participate in the subject and comment rate and subscribe! Thanks a million!
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Wednesday, November 18, 2015
update November 18, 2015
I have taken up a game I really enjoy but I don't understand why I am not getting credit for recruiting people I recruited several people one I know is already required level in game play for me to get credit but I didn't get credit...just disheartening for me...I was counting on getting the badge and now I am dwindled down on my invites and there is no way for me to invite anyone else and get credit...so I guess I won't be getting that badge...oh well the rest of the game is great it gets me out of the house and meeting up with new people and socializing it has been a much needed thing added to my life. My husband also found a movie lover club to attend rare big screen showings of movies he never got to enjoy on the big screen so we are both doing our own things that we enjoy and that is good.
Anyways talk to you later.
hope you all are doing better with your hoards than we are...
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo D
Saturday, August 30, 2014
Update 08-29-2014
Well, we are moving within the month of Sept (we hope)...so far we have made multiple trips to the thrift stores dropping donations off down sizing along the way, and I've been getting rid of things long since forgotten that I had intentions of doing something with some day that never came in the 3 years of living here so...yep time to say goodbye.
Its hard believe me...and I've even thought if I start it now then I'd have to keep it to finish it...but no I refrained and got rid of it instead...are you proud of me? I know I'm proud of myself.
I plan to keep this attitude I haven't touched it in three years it has to go...hopefully my sentimental items aren't too many this go round...my memory is failing me and I'm seeing that as a blessing...the things I have no use for that's sentimental I will take pictures of and donate...and eventually print them and put in an album someday...anyway...just wanted to give you a report...
Hope to blog more often soon...
Talk to you later,
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo