Why it is so hard to get rid of stuff for Hoarders?

Hello readers, I am sharing with you why it is so hard for us to get rid of items our loved ones deem "Trash" and they don't understand why we cannot get rid of said items. So be sure to share this with your loved ones who are calling all your treasures "trash" so they can be clued in as to why it is so hard to just get rid of everything. Alright, 1. When the hoarder acquired said "Trash" they had hopes and dreams for the said item. Big plans to make something with it. Or do something with it. Similarly, you can compare said purging of said "trash" with a miscarriage because the parents involved had dreams for the child and hopes for the child, so its just hard for the Hoarder to just throw it away or donate it. And 2. We need as hoarders to realize that if we haven't made anything with said "trash" by now, we probably won't ever get around to it and it isn't blessing us it is actually hindering us from pursuing any projects, for the simple fact that if we haven't touched it or seen it in 5 years and even still you can go down to within the year of even thinking about said project until seeing the item while digging through the hoard doesn't mean that you should keep said item. What you need to keep in mind when purging our treasures is 1. the dreams and hopes will fade. 2. the really strong dreams and hopes you can put into a pile to later come back to and go through the 2nd time. sometimes a 3rd or 4th time is required to dwindle down the hoard into on categories. so one would be "Keep" another would be "throw away" and another to be called "put away" I am going to add another category which will help aid said hoarder to really think through keeping some of the items and the supervisor of the purge needs to make them really think about said items in the category "on the fence" feeling the slight fondness for an item it can go here for the moment so that way you can come back to it later and really see how much stuff you are not sure about. Most likely this category can be purged for the most part but the hoarder has to be on board and it cannot be impulse actions as this could cause the hoarder to crumble in anxiety. We hoard because we have hopes and dreams to make something or do something with a bunch of stuff most people would call "trash" But I want you to take one of the said projects and complete just one...so you gotta prioritize your hoard of these type items so you can decide what to do first...and I mean it you HAVE to finish said project so be sure you pick wisely. Once you are finished with said project decide if really you want to proceed with other projects and THEN get rid of what you don't really want to finish because finishing said projects will give a sense of accomplishment and that is exactly what we want we want to feel accomplished so we take on so many projects and overwhelm ourselves and it ends up not blessing us, no it is quite the opposite it causes us to experience anguish, anxiety, and lots of other negative emotions including and not limited to depression. It is a trigger for lots of things that are not pleasant so you need to get through your hoard on your own or ask a friend to help keep you on track and on point with your goal...so get your piles 1. keep 2. throw away 3. put away and 4. come back to. Then have at it! you need to declutter your home asap it is an emergency! I am going to do the same so lets go baby! Sincerely, Beka Jo D