Well guys, today was kind of a hard day for me it was my daughter's who was adopted out birthday she turned 11 today so that means 7 more years until she is old enough to come and find me. I miss her terribly bad and her sister who turned 12 back in March. But today I tackled my kitchen counters. I am going to leave the hoard in the garage that is out of sight out of mind there until I can get the hoard inside my home under control and well able to be used as its intended or get rid of what can't be used or whatever it is I am trying to say and do lol.
Funny how I just move my clutter around cause nothing really has a home yet...I really need to figure out where to put the things that I really do need to keep hold of cause I do use them often instead of letting them float from one hot spot to the next...because thats what I do with everything move it from the counter to the stove to the top of the microwave to the dining room table to the entertainment center table that is just cluttered with stuff without electronics on it to my desk to my couch even! Ugh! Stop the madness! But how? I am still trying to figure this out and soon as I figure it out, you know I am going to be posting it here on my blog.
Anyways I worked long and hard and boxed up all the clutter that don't have a home yet, but are needed to be saved for my husband to go through later, I wasn't partial to hardly any of it but he might be so I kept it all for him, not to step on his toes. Anyways, I cleaned the counter with green works and paper towels I wiped down the coffee maker, the microwave on the outside and underneath the toaster, microwave, and coffee maker. I still need to unload the dishwasher and reload it, so I can better scrub the sink with cleaner products cause I don't want to use the products with dishes in the sink because I'm paranoid about the cleaner sticking to the dishes and making us sick. So yeah. The way I got started was the www.flylady.net way by starting my timer I set it for 30 mins which since I am back in shape I believed and successfully did two 30 min sessions without a hiccup though now I am stuck in front of my computer blogging to you guys :-) but I am enjoying sharing with you all my accomplishments.
I also cleaned the electric can opener with a toothbrush and cleaner then rinsed (unplugged of course) with water (and the part I rinsed was detachable) Anyways, it looks brand new! That reminds me I still need to clean the inside of the Microwave too, and the front of the cabinets and dish washer :-) then that half of the Kitchen is done. But this will probably have to wait till tomorrow sometime, since I am already ready for bed.
Anyways, I just thought I would update you all on my progress.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo D
P.S. we didn't get pregnant this month at least so the pregnancy test 5 days prior to my expected monthly said no...but we will keep trying :-)
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Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Update Aug. 15, 2011
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Update July 7, 2011
Well I moved everything out of our house well not everything everything but most of it and put it in the garage for later sorting through...(yeah remember that thing I said about this plan and how it will probably sit there for a whole year before I go through it again lets hope I ain't right about it)...Anyways I am glad I set that expectation cause then if I don't end up doing that and actually do what I intend to do...vs what I set myself up for doing...which is to put it off for a year...so my expectation isn't too high and if I beat it then I feel more accomplished....kind of like my mom making her dream life was her being a bag lady...so if she made it more than that she was well off...which is actually a good way to do it set your expectations low so if you get anything more than that expectation you can pat yourself on the back :-)
So anyways I did a flight of the bumble bee dash to get the stuff moved because my friend and her family was heading over for a visit later that day...but ended up coming the next day so I had a little extra time to do stuff and mopped and swept which felt really good...Anyways the house is looking better...Garage not so much...but I promise I will at least go through one box a month (again not setting too high of expectation so if I do more I am doing real good :-) at least thats the plan) Anyways...I just thought I would update you on the progress...I still have a ways to go but its coming along nicely I think...
Anyways I will talk to you all later...
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
P.S. I have invested in $4 tubs at Walmart to help sort the things I do want to keep (um yeah not the stuff you probably are thinking...its more like bedding and coats and seasonal clothes) Anyways...I just thought I would add that...the necessities things with having three beds and soon four beds when we get set up for baby that we are going to be in the process of making soon...and have to store 5 peoples winter/summer clothes when seasons change...so yeah thats the game plan at least...and I am trying to keep them minimal as far as how many sheets fitted and not fitted, anyways I am trying to down size really I am...next task at hand is the kids toys again...gotta downsize those quick...they are really out of control...so yeah thats the plan...will be probably just in time for another kids birthday XD but I will get it done soon I hope
So anyways I did a flight of the bumble bee dash to get the stuff moved because my friend and her family was heading over for a visit later that day...but ended up coming the next day so I had a little extra time to do stuff and mopped and swept which felt really good...Anyways the house is looking better...Garage not so much...but I promise I will at least go through one box a month (again not setting too high of expectation so if I do more I am doing real good :-) at least thats the plan) Anyways...I just thought I would update you on the progress...I still have a ways to go but its coming along nicely I think...
Anyways I will talk to you all later...
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
P.S. I have invested in $4 tubs at Walmart to help sort the things I do want to keep (um yeah not the stuff you probably are thinking...its more like bedding and coats and seasonal clothes) Anyways...I just thought I would add that...the necessities things with having three beds and soon four beds when we get set up for baby that we are going to be in the process of making soon...and have to store 5 peoples winter/summer clothes when seasons change...so yeah thats the game plan at least...and I am trying to keep them minimal as far as how many sheets fitted and not fitted, anyways I am trying to down size really I am...next task at hand is the kids toys again...gotta downsize those quick...they are really out of control...so yeah thats the plan...will be probably just in time for another kids birthday XD but I will get it done soon I hope
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Update June 28, 2011
Well D.A.V. came and left with a truck full of goodies and we gained one slab of concrete in the garage. I would like to rearrange the garage to make paths to be able to get to stuff easier than hurdling over things and risk avalanches or hurting myself or my husbands self...then move what stuff in the house that I can't get rid of just yet nor put away just yet because I need room to be able to build places for stuff to go...THEN move it back into the house (uh yeah that's the plan right?). You and I both know it won't work unless I stay motivated and then when I am done building places to put stuff and run out of places to put stuff I will still have a garage full of stuff I can't part with...and have to re-evaluate what I have and get rid of more stuff and hopefully by then I wouldn't have accumulated anything more than what I already have today...but that's probably doubtful...
I do have to say the one thing that is good about this depression is that I have no motivation to do anything including but not limited to shopping XD...only good thing about it...bad part of it is that I am not motivated to do anything including cleaning so I just sit here with my mess without building it higher though so that's good I am stable at least not adding to my mess right? Anyways.
I am trying to get things in swing so we can get ready for a baby before we get the baby in the making...so we are ready long before he or she gets here...anyways...
Also I want to note that my horrible mess maybe something no one else think its as bad as I think...I am my worst critic and I have to tell you readers this so you don't get the wrong idea bout me...my hoard isn't filthy its clean I can't stand filth I just have stuff...and its clutter...too much stuff not enough storage space or display shelves or something...the floors are swept and mopped more often than anything...and dishes and laundry do get done...if my husband has to do it he does it...which lately my funk I am in he has been the only one doing anything around here...I feel bad about it but what can I do about it? I lost another baby and I am really just in a funk and I will get through it like I always do...and I am planning on snapping out of it...since my depression is not chemically induced (why pills don't help me) its circumstances and I just gotta work through the problems...there is nothing I can do to change what happened...I just gotta learn to live with the facts that these things happened...and move forward...accepting them....its not easy...but I hear it can be done...so I am going to try very hard...cause pills just make me worse I think...
Anyway...talk to you all later
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
I do have to say the one thing that is good about this depression is that I have no motivation to do anything including but not limited to shopping XD...only good thing about it...bad part of it is that I am not motivated to do anything including cleaning so I just sit here with my mess without building it higher though so that's good I am stable at least not adding to my mess right? Anyways.
I am trying to get things in swing so we can get ready for a baby before we get the baby in the making...so we are ready long before he or she gets here...anyways...
Also I want to note that my horrible mess maybe something no one else think its as bad as I think...I am my worst critic and I have to tell you readers this so you don't get the wrong idea bout me...my hoard isn't filthy its clean I can't stand filth I just have stuff...and its clutter...too much stuff not enough storage space or display shelves or something...the floors are swept and mopped more often than anything...and dishes and laundry do get done...if my husband has to do it he does it...which lately my funk I am in he has been the only one doing anything around here...I feel bad about it but what can I do about it? I lost another baby and I am really just in a funk and I will get through it like I always do...and I am planning on snapping out of it...since my depression is not chemically induced (why pills don't help me) its circumstances and I just gotta work through the problems...there is nothing I can do to change what happened...I just gotta learn to live with the facts that these things happened...and move forward...accepting them....its not easy...but I hear it can be done...so I am going to try very hard...cause pills just make me worse I think...
Anyway...talk to you all later
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Update June 15, 2011
Well the sale went great the first day second day was too windy and third day I didn't even mess with it...I made a grand total of 90 bucks I guess...so that was good...tons of people got great deals on my junk cause I wasn't in the mood to really argue with anyone...I hate people...I am far from a people person...especially stupid ones...and most the visitors were stupid...I didn't punch anyone so that is a good thing...next time won't ever happen next time cause we wont be doing a yard sale ever again...ya its nice to try and get something out of our junk that we been storing for all these years to someday maybe get use out of them...but in the long run it was so not worth the hassle if we ever do it again it will be a Thurs. ONLY sale not a 3 day or even 2 day sale...thats it one day and thats it...
Tomorrow DAV is coming to pick up the rest of our sale items so today I need to better organize the pile that is going to them so it will be an easy unload of the garage to the truck...I really hope someone gets use of my moms quilt light table thing...hope a church can get it real cheap and help support the Disabled American Vets...at the same time...and I hope they don't throw it out not knowing what it is or thinking it wont sale...anyways....I just can't think about that possibility because it sends such anxiety over me it makes my stomach churn....
That I think is the main hoarding problem the anxiety of the thought of all these years wasted holding on to this for someone to just see no value in whatever and just throw it away but it cost so much when we bought it years ago or our loved one bought years ago...ya there is up to date more high tech stuff out there but some people enjoy the old stuff because it works just as well if not better...the stuff they make these days is easily breakable and hardly sturdy at all...breaks easy and wow you know what? batteries don't last as long these days as they did back in the day...my laptop of a year has a battery that is dead now...wont hold a charge at all...yet the other battery that I have had for years is still holding a charge...yes cheaper to make to keep prices down but causes us to have to buy many over the years instead of investing the time and money into a great product...anyways...
After we get the pile that goes to DAV gone tomorrow we will be able to move stuff from inside our home out there so we can function in our home instead of piling stuff from here to there to use stuff...anyways....I am excited about that...but I don't want that to be a permanent home for the stuff we move out there...I still plan to go through stuff and get rid of more stuff...just in time....it sure didn't get this way over night and it isn't going to get fixed in one day either...its going to take time and great discipline but I am up for the challenge on my own since no one seems to want to help me...ya I asked all my friends in town to come help me with my garage sale...um...no one...well my aunt patty came to help...and my sister in law sent her friends son to help which helped a lot....but not exactly what I had in mind...just as what I had in mind when we went to move...I expected a convoy of people lining up to help me and we get most of it in one load if not two loads and be done...but ya that didn't happen and here it is a year after we moved and we I think have just half a shed worth of junk and maybe the top shelf in a garage still at our rentals but that stuff will come when we get more room over here obviously...its not hurting nobody being where it is right now...anyways...
Once we get rid of the overwhelming cluttered mess out of our house I can focus on deep cleaning and reclaim our home finally...and keep on top of it cause I don't want it to get this way ever again! of course Lord knows it may slip here and there and hopefully not get too far out of control...I just know I gotta try to keep up with it...my mom did it with 4 kids why can't I with only 2? and I am going to be trying to add a 3rd in Aug. Sept. going to try again....anyway...my health isn't doing too great either so hopefully that won't put a damper on my ability to clean and keep up with the house once the clutter is gone I don't see it being an issue...minus the new junk coming in the home (mail, etc.) Anyways I will definitely be enforcing fly lady way of living every day because I can't do it any other way...anyway
That is the update for now...do a one day sale if you want to do a garage or yard sale...don't ever sign up for a 2 or 3 day sale...you think you will drag out your ability to sale stuff...but honestly I made maybe 3-10 bucks on the second day of my sale and didn't even bother putting the sale out on the third day...wasn't worth it....too hot and windy...if you are having an estate sale and its in the home sure no problem...stay cool enjoy the company that comes and goes...but if its gonna be outside...forget it don't do more than one day elements of weather, and stuff is hard to guess what its going to be doing...anyways....
I must go reorganize the pile thats going tomorrow to the DAV (we frantically had to throw everything back into the garage and its strewn all over the place because of the rain that was starting to pour down on us)
Anyways talk to you all later
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Tomorrow DAV is coming to pick up the rest of our sale items so today I need to better organize the pile that is going to them so it will be an easy unload of the garage to the truck...I really hope someone gets use of my moms quilt light table thing...hope a church can get it real cheap and help support the Disabled American Vets...at the same time...and I hope they don't throw it out not knowing what it is or thinking it wont sale...anyways....I just can't think about that possibility because it sends such anxiety over me it makes my stomach churn....
That I think is the main hoarding problem the anxiety of the thought of all these years wasted holding on to this for someone to just see no value in whatever and just throw it away but it cost so much when we bought it years ago or our loved one bought years ago...ya there is up to date more high tech stuff out there but some people enjoy the old stuff because it works just as well if not better...the stuff they make these days is easily breakable and hardly sturdy at all...breaks easy and wow you know what? batteries don't last as long these days as they did back in the day...my laptop of a year has a battery that is dead now...wont hold a charge at all...yet the other battery that I have had for years is still holding a charge...yes cheaper to make to keep prices down but causes us to have to buy many over the years instead of investing the time and money into a great product...anyways...
After we get the pile that goes to DAV gone tomorrow we will be able to move stuff from inside our home out there so we can function in our home instead of piling stuff from here to there to use stuff...anyways....I am excited about that...but I don't want that to be a permanent home for the stuff we move out there...I still plan to go through stuff and get rid of more stuff...just in time....it sure didn't get this way over night and it isn't going to get fixed in one day either...its going to take time and great discipline but I am up for the challenge on my own since no one seems to want to help me...ya I asked all my friends in town to come help me with my garage sale...um...no one...well my aunt patty came to help...and my sister in law sent her friends son to help which helped a lot....but not exactly what I had in mind...just as what I had in mind when we went to move...I expected a convoy of people lining up to help me and we get most of it in one load if not two loads and be done...but ya that didn't happen and here it is a year after we moved and we I think have just half a shed worth of junk and maybe the top shelf in a garage still at our rentals but that stuff will come when we get more room over here obviously...its not hurting nobody being where it is right now...anyways...
Once we get rid of the overwhelming cluttered mess out of our house I can focus on deep cleaning and reclaim our home finally...and keep on top of it cause I don't want it to get this way ever again! of course Lord knows it may slip here and there and hopefully not get too far out of control...I just know I gotta try to keep up with it...my mom did it with 4 kids why can't I with only 2? and I am going to be trying to add a 3rd in Aug. Sept. going to try again....anyway...my health isn't doing too great either so hopefully that won't put a damper on my ability to clean and keep up with the house once the clutter is gone I don't see it being an issue...minus the new junk coming in the home (mail, etc.) Anyways I will definitely be enforcing fly lady way of living every day because I can't do it any other way...anyway
That is the update for now...do a one day sale if you want to do a garage or yard sale...don't ever sign up for a 2 or 3 day sale...you think you will drag out your ability to sale stuff...but honestly I made maybe 3-10 bucks on the second day of my sale and didn't even bother putting the sale out on the third day...wasn't worth it....too hot and windy...if you are having an estate sale and its in the home sure no problem...stay cool enjoy the company that comes and goes...but if its gonna be outside...forget it don't do more than one day elements of weather, and stuff is hard to guess what its going to be doing...anyways....
I must go reorganize the pile thats going tomorrow to the DAV (we frantically had to throw everything back into the garage and its strewn all over the place because of the rain that was starting to pour down on us)
Anyways talk to you all later
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Friday, May 27, 2011
my progress as of 05/27/2011
Well today we took a big bite out of our hoard...went through half of our double car garage got a good pile of sale items for the garage sale next weekend...about half of the stuff we went through is going into the sale...thats encouraging...tomorrow we plan to go through the other side of the garage and put all the sale on that side and put the rest of the keep on the side we went through today and the sale on the side we will be going through tomorrow if that makes any sense...anyways...I am hoping to have more help tomorrow but I guess I gotta call everyone individually and ask them one by one and be turned down by each one by one cause I know they can't do it for one reason or another....which is fine I understand its kind of last minute but its the last weekend my husband can help me and so I am trying to make it count...I know I have a week before the garage sale I just want it done this weekend so I can be sure of what he wants to keep and what he wants to get rid of...so I can not have to bother him during his work week...anyways...I hope our nephew can at least help keep the kids busy so they don't fight all day like they did today...ugh no wonder why I did 80% of the work...Daddy had to referee and had to take the car to the car dealership for an oil change...anyways...thats the game plan pray for weather to allow this to happen and pray for someone to be able to come and help cause I really don't want to do this alone...and pray no one asks us to go to their house for whatever reason or something breaks at our rentals or something that makes us have to do something other than what we have been trying to do since we moved here a year ago...but every weekend my husband was off till now he has or we have had to work on our rentals or had get together with family or friends...anyway I am hopeful for tomorrow :-)
Talk to you later,
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Talk to you later,
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Sunday, April 17, 2011
my progress as of 04/17/2011
Well as most of you know my progress has been put on a stand still due to my losing our son who was stillborn March 18, 2011...it came as a shock and I still am having problems with admitting that it happened I guess...I really want to have a decluttered home but I am so not motivated now that I lost my motivation (a baby on the way) And with the possibility of trying again for another baby hanging up in the air until we know about my health which I have a 1cm lesion on my liver...which is causing me to be sick to my stomach, lack of appetite (feeling of being full all the time), Severe pain in my abdomen, and fatigue...they are the ones that are most effecting me right now...anyways...I am kind of beside myself as to wanting to get anything done in the house...
I am more wanting to get a memorial garden in place and NO ONE IS WILLING TO COME AND HELP ME and its very frustrating to me...the two shovels I had broke...and I dont know where my spades are so I can at least do some of it by hand...and I keep asking people to come over and bring their shovels but no one seems to see me anymore...its like everyone who came out of the woodwork and came forward in sympathy have suddenly worked their selves back into the woodwork and again I stand alone...I keep thinking maybe I am not grieving properly and thats why they just ignore me...because they don't think thats what I should be doing with myself at this point in time...of course thats probably just my borderline getting the best of me...but still I am alone...people asked me if there was anything that they could do for me...which is what is now obviously just something people say and don't mean it sincerely just like that question "how are you?" which is inquiring for a casual "fine" remark not a life story word vomit type response that I often give the inquirers...I have never been good with being reserved and keep things to myself...and if you didn't figure this out yet...now you know...
Anyways I just thought I would let you all know I am at a stand still with my progress...but I do have a box of donations to be delivered this week at some time that I decide to do so...its on my to do list...anyways
Talk to you later.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
I am more wanting to get a memorial garden in place and NO ONE IS WILLING TO COME AND HELP ME and its very frustrating to me...the two shovels I had broke...and I dont know where my spades are so I can at least do some of it by hand...and I keep asking people to come over and bring their shovels but no one seems to see me anymore...its like everyone who came out of the woodwork and came forward in sympathy have suddenly worked their selves back into the woodwork and again I stand alone...I keep thinking maybe I am not grieving properly and thats why they just ignore me...because they don't think thats what I should be doing with myself at this point in time...of course thats probably just my borderline getting the best of me...but still I am alone...people asked me if there was anything that they could do for me...which is what is now obviously just something people say and don't mean it sincerely just like that question "how are you?" which is inquiring for a casual "fine" remark not a life story word vomit type response that I often give the inquirers...I have never been good with being reserved and keep things to myself...and if you didn't figure this out yet...now you know...
Anyways I just thought I would let you all know I am at a stand still with my progress...but I do have a box of donations to be delivered this week at some time that I decide to do so...its on my to do list...anyways
Talk to you later.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
My progress as of 03/9/2011
I got rid of 4 or 5 boxes of office supplies the other day by donating it all to the school my kids attend...they were over joyed with all the post it notes, stackable shelves, binders, filing cabinet dividers of many kinds including folder type, as well as many different print outs for different types of hand outs for homework and stuff that my mom wrote my name on each page of and I am sure she intended for me to do them but we never got around to doing them for some reason or another, as well as staple removers, desktop tape dispensers, totes for like pens and arts supplies...anyways there were 17 of those stackable plastic shelves total...so that saved a lot of space as well as the boxes that were taking up space...of course the space was over at the rent house where we easily moved a whole truck full of stuff from my sisters before she moved out of state...anyways...progress just not where its needed which is here at home...though I did get rid of some stuff and I have a box that is being added to...that is going to be donated...I just want it full before I drop it off cause I don't want to waste the box I am limited on having at this point...anyways...I am getting there slowly but surely....its just hard to get rid of books...especially those of value when you know you have something worth something but not having the connections to sell the collector items sorta thing....yeah
I have less than 3 months to be ready for baby to come home and we keep having to work on our other homes our rental properties instead...and other type hoards that don't really belong to me but I am pretty much looking through my mothers stuff and saying oh I remember this and dismiss it and donate it or throw it away depending on if its of worth for DAV to sell...anyways I am nearly buried in my mothers books that she has collected over the years...as well as inherited from different people she lost throughout the years...and some are worth something but finding someone who holds interest in them and willing to pay what is worth is very tricky process...I just may put them on ebay starting at .99 and hope someone doesn't end up getting such a great deal that they rob me of its worth and hopefully I make enough money to help pay for my braces that I desperately need so I can close my mouth and chew my food properly because my teeth don't meet anymore due to having TMJD surgery, then getting a splint to correct my bite and now I need braces to finally be pain free and able to chew properly and thus solving issues I have been having with my digestion process...anyways...long story there...
Anyways, just thought I would update on my progress on my hoard...
I will try to keep you all up to date on my hoard and I hope it is helping...I am sorry I am slacking off but my health hasn't been up to par lately and I am coming down with something yet again...just got over something and now I am coming down with something else grrr...will I ever not be sick? will I ever feel good?
Anyways talk to you later please comment so I know I am loved and someone is out there reading this...thanks
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
I have less than 3 months to be ready for baby to come home and we keep having to work on our other homes our rental properties instead...and other type hoards that don't really belong to me but I am pretty much looking through my mothers stuff and saying oh I remember this and dismiss it and donate it or throw it away depending on if its of worth for DAV to sell...anyways I am nearly buried in my mothers books that she has collected over the years...as well as inherited from different people she lost throughout the years...and some are worth something but finding someone who holds interest in them and willing to pay what is worth is very tricky process...I just may put them on ebay starting at .99 and hope someone doesn't end up getting such a great deal that they rob me of its worth and hopefully I make enough money to help pay for my braces that I desperately need so I can close my mouth and chew my food properly because my teeth don't meet anymore due to having TMJD surgery, then getting a splint to correct my bite and now I need braces to finally be pain free and able to chew properly and thus solving issues I have been having with my digestion process...anyways...long story there...
Anyways, just thought I would update on my progress on my hoard...
I will try to keep you all up to date on my hoard and I hope it is helping...I am sorry I am slacking off but my health hasn't been up to par lately and I am coming down with something yet again...just got over something and now I am coming down with something else grrr...will I ever not be sick? will I ever feel good?
Anyways talk to you later please comment so I know I am loved and someone is out there reading this...thanks
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo
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